Be Yourself

“Well, it’s your life. Why listen to others? If you are truly interested in linguistics and language learning, go ahead and do so. Listen to me, both the Japanese and Shanghainese language systems are truly similar as neither systems possess retroflex. Learning an extra language really helps with being a citizen of the world.”
” I know that, and I want to do that. But my dad is constantly bombarding me with his values. He is very controlling and wants me to do exactly as he oughts me to. I dislike people who are very controlling and that’s why we’ve gotten in quite a few fights, and the outcome has always been me submitting to his wishes.”
“You know, it’s you who will live your life., not your dad or any other person’s.”
“I said that to him, but he said since he’s the one paying my remaining tuition (aside from scholarship coverage,) I have to listen to him.”
“Well, I see how this can be very frustrating. If I were you, I would remain calm when conversing with him even though it’s hard. I would tell him that I know all the benefits and drawbacks associated with my choice of major, and that I believe I can take the drawbacks.”
“…he’s a very difficult person though…”
“Well, if he threatens to halt your education, just ask him if he would be willing to raise you for the rest of your life. Your future should only be in your hands. Learning anything is useful as long as you are willing to put in the work to really know that skill.”


On the Plane


“My husband spent 8 years waiting for me. I met him while working in America after I finished my masters in my earlier years. It wasn’t really a good time since I didn’t have American residency and that my family was against me dating a white guy (they wanted her to date and marry Chinese) back then. But my husband was persistent. I had to go back to China during my period of job vacancy after my first internship had ended. I’ll be honest with you, normal people would just breakup if that’s the case., but he didn’t. For 8 years, he would fly to China, 2 to 3 times per year, just to see me. Eventually his persistence moved my family, and that’s how we wedded.”

“In your opinion, what’s the most important factor that kept your relationship going when you guys were split up for that long ?”

“Understanding. I have understood his love, and he has done the same.”